Believing in yourself is really hard. Your more likely to believe in yourself when someone on the outside is able to affirm it with you, right?
An example would definitely be one of my college professor & adviser. He was a man I really looked up to in all things. An intelligent man who also had the most kind and concerning heart.
There were so many times you could find me in his office for long periods of time just rambling about my worries and concerns. School… career… grades… life… EVERYTHING!
But what he never failed to say to me every time I was in his office was, "Don’t worry. You’re a very smart girl."
In the moment I would just smile and laugh, mostly just shrugging it off as a mandatory encouragement for a panicking student. But he really always took time to tell me how much more experience I had under my belt compared to so many, and how my grades were high compared to others as well. He always reminded me of how much I had accomplished & how proud he was. And over all those years.. Without even realizing, it had all added up & given me so much hope.
And tomorrow I face another dreaded job interview. It is probably the most intimidating interview that I have ever been faced with. Something I feel is so out of my reach and comfort zone for sure. A huge step. Do I feel I am qualified for this position? Not completely. Do I feel like I’m probably the best candidate ever? I doubt it.
But I actually really believe in myself. My professor was right. I am smart. And even if things didn’t always come naturally to me, he walked with me through 4 years of college and saw how hard I worked for the things that didn’t. He helped me to believe in myself and remind myself that I have so much to offer. Just as much as the person next to me.
So as a reminder, always have encouragement and positive words hanging from your lips. You really never know how much inspiration and hope it can give to the person you share it with. It may be the last bit of hope they are hanging onto. It may be the reason they go for something they normally wouldn’t feel comfortable doing, and ending up in a place they never thought they could be. We can do it together :)